Everyone Deserves a Second Chance

January ushers the world into a brand new calendar year, and for many, a new beginning. These new beginnings often come as a New Year’s resolution where people vow to change something in their lives, whether it’s exercise more, eat less, quit smoking, or spend more time reading the Bible. It is a time when people look for second chances.

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Today, you can usher in a brand new beginning that will change your life forever and far exceed the borders of your wildest imagination. Now is the time for your spiritual awakening and a second chance for a bold, fresh new start in life and a fresh new you! That is what the birth of Jesus Christ, more than 2,000 years ago, was about — giving humanity a second chance. God can do that, and in fact, He already has a plan for each person’s life. All one needs to do is willingly accept Jesus as his or her Savior and Lord. 

When it comes to relationships, the world tends to use the rule of one, two, three-strikes, and you’re out. There is even a growing trend of a one and done mindset where there is no chance for reconciliation. For many of us, we have been on the receiving end of someone’s unwillingness to forgive, but before we feel all victimized, let’s admit that we too were unwilling to forgive others at one time or another, and perhaps some still are unwilling.

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In the spiritual sense, that is the same hopeless state of mind that Satan wants us to have when seeking God’s forgiveness. Satan wants us to believe that we have crossed that line in the sand or traveled beyond the point of no return. In other words, the devil wants us to think we have committed an unpardonable sin, one that God would never consider forgiving. All of which is nothing more than sinister propaganda invented by Satan and company. 

In modern terms, Satan’s words are nothing more than fake news, but the word of God is the only real news you can use. The Bible teaches: “He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion” (Pro. 28:13). It also tells us that God is always faithful to forgive those who faithfully confess their sin.

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Perhaps you have heard the phrase, “I can forgive, but never forget.” It is a mindset that people have when it comes to those who have hurt them. However, the phrase is contradictive because if a person is unwilling to forget, it is likely that person is reluctant to forgive someone who has genuinely apologized. Such a mindset will never lead to reconciliation in a relationship because the memory and reminder are everpresent.

True reconciliation never focuses on the rearview mirror of life; instead, it focuses on the possibilities of the open road ahead. 

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God stands ready to forgive those who are willing to confess and turn from their sins. He does this lovingly, not begrudgingly, and He said, “For I will be merciful to their iniquities, and I will remember their sins no more” (Heb. 8:12). God so loves His children He not only forgives their sins and chooses to remember their sins no more. He gives us one second chance after another, not because He does not care, but because He cares and desires to see us become spiritually mature.

When Jesus taught the importance of forgiveness to His disciples, Peter asked, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus replied, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven” (Matt. 18:21-22). The notion here is that one will either lose count or lose interest in counting long before reaching the sum. 

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There is, however, in fact, a point of no return. That point is one’s physical death, and for those who chose not to accept Jesus as Savior and Lord in this life will not stand before God in the next as a forgiven soul, but a condemned soul. Once a person’s soul crosses the threshold between this life and the next, it is too late to accept Jesus and be forgiven. Here is the good news! Until that point in time, God stands ready to give one second chance after another and forgive those who genuinely seek Him.

Therefore, be encouraged to take the time to talk to God, ask Him to search you to reveal any unconfessed sin in your life. Apostle John wrote, “If we say that we have no sin, we are deceiving ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9). Now, let us take time in the privacy of our thoughts and talk to God.


“God never leaves you nor forsakes you.” I’ve heard that before.  “Jesus will leave the 99 to come after you.” I’ve heard that one too.  Meanwhile, fear creeps up when life hurls a season of loneliness our way, and poof! Churchy sayings hold as much weight as thin air.  Believe it or not, God is cheering us on and inviting us to thrive amidst the loneliness. Yes, it’s weird and scary, but this emptiness is a safe space where you get to hear the God of everything speak the loudest. You’re safe because God is so good at owning goodness amidst our dank, confused, lonely seasons, and because of Him, you aren’t so by yourself.” 


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5 thoughts on “Everyone Deserves a Second Chance

  1. jimhowley January 15, 2021 / 2:59 PM

    So I get what you are saying about forgiving and not forgetting, that we may not be truly forgiving if we can’t forget ( when someone has sincerely apologized ). What about when we forgive even when there has been even no attempt at an apology. That forgiveness is more for our on personal peace and being obedient to God. Where does forgetting fall into that scenario.
    How about when we forgive someone who has repeatedly wronged us, and do not wish to, or even refuse to embrace them or allow them to be in our lives, not out of anger rather mistrust?


    • Darryl Orrell January 15, 2021 / 4:12 PM

      Thank you for taking the time to read and comment, Jim. These are excellent questions, and to address your first, the willingness to forgive someone begins with our willingness to let go of how that person hurt us, which is for the very reason you suggest, i.e., for our personal peace, spiritual well-being, and obedience to God. In Scripture, Apostle Paul encourages us to be at peace with everyone, in as much as it depends on us, and Paul includes that caveat, “in as much as it depends on us,” because he knows there will be people who simply prefer to always be disgruntled no matter what. However, our inner-peace depends on us, and if we harbor the memory of being hurt, then true inner-peace remains allusive within us. This is not to say that we should not learn from the past and guard ourselves against being hurt– that’s the trust factor that must be earned over time; however, we must be faithful to always forgive, forget, and seek reconciliation with those who hurt us, just as God is always faithful to forgive, forget, and reconcile with us when we wrong Him. Now, can we truly forget, which is to say can we erase the memory of something as easy as we erase a file on a computer? The answer is no. It’s a choice we must make to not dwell on and allow bitterness to fester around that memory or recall it to use as a weapon against the person at some point in the future. Does God know about our past? Absolutely, He knows our past as well as our future, but by His mercy and grace, He extends forgiveness and does not hold our transgressions against us by choosing to remember them no more, and of which we are oh so thankful.


      • jimhowley January 15, 2021 / 5:14 PM

        Okay , but I am not clear on part two. Is it wrong if we do not wish to, or even refuse to embrace them or allow them to be in our lives, not out of anger rather mistrust? We have forgiven the wrongs although no admission of wrong doing nor attempt to apologize has ever been made and see no reason to have them in our lives in any way.


        • Darryl Orrell January 15, 2021 / 5:42 PM

          My first question would be, is the person aware of the hurt he or she caused? Has the hurt person approached the offender to address and resolve the issue? Perhaps more often than not, there are times when people are not aware they have hurt or offended someone. That said, if someone has caused hurt and could not care less about doing so and or continues to cause hurt, then the answer is no, there is nothing wrong with disassociating with that person as long as it is not out of bitter retaliation and an unforgiving attitude– again, “in as much as it depends on us, be at peace with everyone” for our own inner peace and spiritual well-being. However, if, at some point, the person truly seeks forgiveness and reconciliation, then we must be willing to do so as followers of Jesus Christ.

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          • jimhowley January 15, 2021 / 7:22 PM

            Now I am hearing what I was believing to be the, shall I say righteous path for the situation.

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